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Discarding Feelings of Inferiority 4 Ways to Build Children’s Confidence

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By Mr. Kwan Hin Pan, Director of Financial Education Association Courses and Training

Every parent hopes their child becomes an optimistic, positive, and confident individual. However, nowadays, there are more and more children who suffer from feelings of inferiority, and as parents, how should we address this issue? In fact, there are four methods that can be considered to build children’s confidence.

1. Identify the Causes and Administer the Appropriate Remedy
Many children’s feelings of inferiority do not stem from innate factors but are caused by misguided teachings from adults. Some psychologists point out that many primary and secondary school students have weak self-awareness and often evaluate themselves based on the opinions of adults. Even when they have independent perspectives, they tend to be one-sided.

Therefore, during this period, if teachers and parents assess a child’s abilities improperly, it can harm their self-esteem and confidence, leading to feelings of inferiority. Moreover, some parents excessively criticize their children’s behaviors and constantly nag them. Such excessive evaluation can also generate feelings of inferiority in children. Additionally, children who have poor academic performance or subpar physical health may develop feelings of inferiority. Therefore, when a child experiences feelings of inferiority, it is crucial to first analyze the underlying reasons.

2. Reasonable Expectations and Evaluations
When parents help their children overcome feelings of inferiority, they must understand their abilities and levels, set appropriate expectations, and provide reasonable evaluations. For example, if a child consistently fails in exams, parents can initially set a goal for them to pass a specific subject. If the child meets this expectation, parents should acknowledge and encourage them, and then set further goals.

During this process, parents should not worry about setbacks or be too impatient. They should affirm the child’s spirit of effort, patiently analyze the reasons behind setbacks, and encourage the child to give their best. Only then can children see their progress step by step, witness the achievements they have made through hard work, strengthen their confidence, and overcome feelings of inferiority.

3. Broaden Perspectives and Expand Knowledge
When children with feelings of inferiority compare themselves to others who possess similar knowledge deficiencies and limited perspectives, they naturally feel inferior. Therefore, parents should consciously enrich their children’s knowledge, broaden their horizons, and enhance their various abilities.

Parents can guide their children in reading and take them on educational trips, allowing them to feel that they have acquired knowledge and skills, and that they are not inferior to others. This gradual process helps eliminate feelings of inferiority within them.

4. Apply Encouragement Skillfully
The most important aspect for parents in helping their children overcome feelings of inferiority is to respect and protect their self-esteem. For example, when a child achieves unsatisfactory results in an exam, parents should empathize with their feelings, put themselves in their shoes, help the child analyze the reasons, and develop rational measures. They should not let emotions take over and resort to sarcasm, ridicule, blame, or reproach.

Criticism often proves ineffective for children with feelings of inferiority. On the contrary, praise and encouragement often yield unexpected results. Therefore, when a child makes progress, parents should promptly acknowledge and praise their efforts. Even when a child encounters problems, parents should affirm the positive aspects within those situations. This not only helps them rebuild their confidence and overcome difficulties but also strengthens the parent-child relationship, achieving two positive outcomes at once.

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How to Help Children Face Failure with Positivity?

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By Mr. Kwan Hin Pan, Director of Financial Education Association Courses and Training

In many cases, the biggest impact on children is not the failure itself but their understanding of setbacks. For example, when a child is not chosen to represent the school in an inter-school competition, their immediate thought may be that they are not as capable as their classmates. However, there may be other reasons behind it, such as the teacher being concerned about their well-being and not wanting them to participate in more important competitions. This approach is not about letting children escape responsibility but sometimes it is necessary to help them understand that their own factors contributed to the failure.

Parents must remind their children that everyone faces difficulties when starting something new. It is important for parents to encourage their children to persevere and not place too much emphasis on perfection. They should resist the urge to provide immediate help and instead allow the child to try different methods to face the challenges. For example, if a child is having difficulty learning calligraphy, they can start by imitating.

As children, their attitudes towards people and things around them are often unstable and easily influenced by emotions and other factors. When faced with difficulties and failures, they tend to develop negative emotions and struggle to adopt the right attitude towards failure, which hampers their resilience. In such situations, parents should promptly tell their children that failure is not frightening and that they can do well if they are a little braver. They should encourage them to learn from their failures and think about how to do better next time. Parents should consciously use their children’s failures as opportunities for education, guiding them to regain their courage and confidence to try again. At the same time, they should teach their children to face difficulties and setbacks with bravery, and enhance their ability to overcome challenges and develop resilience.

In life, nobody can remain undefeated forever. Even “Hurdle King” Liu Xiang from China experienced a setback at the London Olympics. Only those who are brave enough to face failure have the chance to once again achieve a successful outcome and wear a smile of success.

Parents should understand the importance of teaching their children to bravely face failure because nobody achieves success throughout their entire life. From a young age, we understand the saying “Failure is the mother of success,” so we don’t fear failure. However, if we carefully examine our understanding of this phrase, the emphasis should be on “success” rather than “failure,” which means that our acceptance of failure still comes with conditions. When failure doesn’t guarantee future success, it can still be associated with shame and guilt. Therefore, parents must clearly understand whether they are teaching their children to face failure or to avoid it!

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Unable to Concentrate While Homeschooling: Fun Activities to Improve Concentration

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Article: Hong Kong Speech and Swallowing Therapy Center
Speech Therapist: Lee Man Kit

Children who are studying at home may find it extremely difficult to sit still and have low attention span. They are easily distracted and often forgetful. Naturally, parents may feel frustrated, but they should pay attention to whether their child exhibits other symptoms, such as avoiding tasks, excessive talking, or difficulty following rules. It could be a case of Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).

Let’s start with a simple psychological test. If you were given the chance to choose one superpower to give to your child, which one would you choose from the following ten options: superpower of mind reading, superpower of exceptional memory, superpower of keen observation, superpower of social skills, superpower of creativity, superpower of language abilities, superpower of analytical thinking, superpower of athletic abilities, and superpower of focus. Take no more than twenty seconds to think about it before continuing to read the following text.

Among these numerous superpowers, it’s not easy for parents to make a choice! Regardless of the superpower you choose for your child, it shows that you want your child to excel. When you read the above text in the last minute, your attention was already at work. You had to concentrate on reading the text displayed on the computer or phone screen and ignore other irrelevant information, such as things you saw beyond the screen or noises around you. If you demonstrated a high level of focus and observation, you may have even noticed that the author mistakenly wrote “起強” instead of “超強” for the seventh superpower, and there were only 9 superpowers mentioned instead of 10.

Attention is a critical cognitive ability that is essential for learning. Attention refers to the ability to maintain concentration on a specific important task while ignoring irrelevant distractions. Attention is not a special skill, but it is indispensable. This is especially true for young children who are in the learning stage. Learning new things involves multiple cognitive steps: the brain needs to absorb various information, analyze it, and then store the processed data in long-term memory. Attention is a prerequisite for these cognitive activities. If attention is lacking, learning anything will be difficult and may lead to frustration.

Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)

Many parents may have the following questions: “What qualifies as attention deficit? Does attention deficit equate to having ADHD?” According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5), ADHD has two main symptoms: inattention and hyperactivity/impulsivity. These two symptoms can occur together or separately.

Most individuals with ADHD are diagnosed during elementary school because their symptoms become more noticeable during this period. Some cases of ADHD with significant symptoms can be diagnosed between the ages of 4 and 6. If parents suspect that their child has ADHD, they should seek professional help.

For children, if they exhibit six or more of the following symptoms persistently for six months or more, on two or more occasions, and if these symptoms significantly impair their daily functioning, it may indicate inattention:

  1. Often fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork or other activities
  2. Often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities
  3. Often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly
  4. Often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace
  5. Often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities
  6. Often avoids, dislikes, or is reluctant to engage in tasks that require sustained mental effort
  7. Often loses things necessary for tasks or activities
  8. Often easily distracted by extraneous stimuli
  9. Often forgetful in daily activities

Additionally, if they exhibit six or more of the following symptoms persistently for six months or more, on two or more occasions, and if these symptoms significantly impair their daily functioning, it may indicate hyperactivity/impulsivity:

  1. Often fidgets with or taps hands or feet or squirms in seat
  2. Often leaves seat in situations when remaining seated is expected
  3. Often runs about or climbs in situations where it is inappropriate
  4. Often unable to play or engage in leisure activities quietly
  5. Often “on the go” or often acts as if “driven by a motor”
  6. Often talks excessively
  7. Often blurts out answers before questions have been completed
  8. Often has difficulty awaiting turn
  9. Often interrupts or intrudes on others

Strengthening Concentration through Language Activities

Language skills are closely related to concentration, so children with poor concentration may also experience language difficulties. Even if a child does not have obvious attention deficits, improving concentration can still be beneficial for their language and other learning activities.

There are many simple and fun activities that can effectively enhance a child’s concentration. For example, in a spot-the-difference game, children are required to find the differences between two similar pictures. This game requires children to focus their attention, constantly scanning back and forth between the two pictures, carefully analyzing the differences, and ignoring the similarities as well as visual or auditory distractions outside the pictures. Moreover, the difficulty of the game can be adjusted based on the child’s abilities. Similarly, puzzle games serve a similar purpose. In puzzle games, children also need to concentrate and use visual observation and analysis to put the puzzle pieces together, while ignoring visual or auditory distractions outside the puzzle. Engaging in games that require concentration in a moderate and step-by-step manner can train a child’s concentration.

By incorporating elements of language expression into concentration games, parents can not only improve their child’s concentration but also enhance their language skills. For example, in the spot-the-difference game mentioned above, parents can encourage children to describe the differences between the two pictures using different sentence structures while playing, such as saying, “The apple in the left picture is red, and the apple in the right picture is green.” If the child’s answer is too simple, parents can use sentence restructuring to help the child learn appropriate sentence patterns.

Similarly, by adding elements of language comprehension into concentration games, parents can simultaneously train their child’s concentration and language comprehension skills. For example, parents can start by drawing five stars and five circles on a piece of paper and then give instructions like, “Add a smiley face to all the stars!” or “Add eyes to all the circles!” In these games, children need to concentrate and use auditory skills to absorb and understand the instructions given, and then concentrate visually to identify the correct shapes and add the appropriate patterns, while ignoring visual distractions other than the target shapes or auditory distractions other than the instructions.

Seeking Professional Help

If parents suspect that their child has attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), it is advisable to seek professional assessment from a pediatrician, child psychiatrist, clinical psychologist, or educational psychologist. If a child shows significant learning difficulties, the doctor or psychologist may also refer the case to an occupational therapist or speech therapist for further assessment and treatment.

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2024/2025 School Year Primary One Admission Arrangements Eligibility

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The application for Primary One admission for the 2024/2025 school year will begin in September 2023. If you wish to learn about the Primary One admission process, please click here.

All applicants participating in the 2024 Primary One Admission Scheme must meet all of the following requirements:

  • The child must be aged 5 years and 8 months by September 2024 (born on or before December 31, 2018; children born on or after January 1, 2019, are not of eligible age).
  • Must be a Hong Kong resident.
  • Must not have previously attended primary school.
  • Must not have been allocated a Primary One school placement before.
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We are currently accepting applications for the 2024/2025 school year for new students. Feel free to inquire.

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We are also accepting applications for the 2024/2025 school year for Nursery, Lower, and Upper Classes (K1-K3), for children born on or before December 31, 2021. Applications are now open, and inquiries are welcome.

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We are currently accepting applications for the 2023/2024 school year, including mid-year transfer students. Feel free to inquire.

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We are also accepting applications for the 2023/2024 school year for Nursery, Lower, and Upper Classes (K1-K3), for children born on or before December 31, 2020. Applications are now open, and inquiries are welcome.

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